{"id":24397,"date":"2017-04-04T21:06:39","date_gmt":"2017-04-04T20:06:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.maihua.fr\/en\/?p=24397"},"modified":"2017-04-06T17:31:05","modified_gmt":"2017-04-06T16:31:05","slug":"you-piss-me-off","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/en\/2017\/04\/you-piss-me-off\/","title":{"rendered":"You Piss Me Off"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hahahahah, this title is written with the font arial 80 and blinks of course! Because today I would like to talk to you about ANGER! Rhaaaaaaa!<\/span><\/p>\n

A subject which finally XXXX this blog for the past year, because if recap:<\/span><\/p>\n

>\u00a0I only admitted to myself last year that there was some anger in me (at 38 years old)(38 years of blindeness!)(pffff)<\/span><\/p>\n

It was during a dance class with the founder of Krump, Tight Eyez<\/a>.. 2 years earlier!<\/span><\/p>\n

>\u00a0I then read Jerry\u2019s book (oh my Jerry<\/a>!) whose chapter about the Dark Side challenged me so much.<\/span><\/p>\n

> Then the lecture on Spinoza<\/a> and his necessity to know your inner demons if you don\u2019t want to be their first victims<\/span><\/p>\n

>\u00a0And this obvious expression from\u00a0<\/span>“do you want to be good or whole<\/a>“.<\/p>\n

> We then played with Trump<\/a>\u2019s arrival to power play \u201cthis is so me.”<\/span><\/p>\n

Eh..ah yeah that adds up at the end. Actually it\u2019s MY subject of the moment and actually\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

I have decided to practice anger.\u00a0 I mean \u201cmy\u201d anger\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

and in fact\u2026 it’s ok!<\/p>\n

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1. Boys don’t cry… Girls can’t be angry.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So manifestly, I am helped for that, since Jerry has been anger\u2026 teacher HAHAHAHA naaaannn???? Yessssss! I swear, he performed seminars and retreats, etc. around the anger theme.\u00a0 We talked about vulnerability and about our huge difficulty to allow ourselves to be vulnerable<\/a>.\u00a0 By shame.\u00a0 And that this shame is societally organized by gender.\u00a0 Men must always be strong and women always even, beautiful and mostly always effortless.\u00a0 So boy\u2019s don\u2019t cry, girls can\u2019t be angry!<\/span><\/p>\n

Jerry tells me that during very simple exercices like \u201cyou are set in in a closed room with a baseball bat and pillows” men have no problem beating, while women will start sobbing at the idea of holding a bat in their hands.\u00a0 TO GET ANGRY FOR A WOMEN IS SIMPLY FORBIDDEN!\u00a0 And I find it important that each of us can understand how society activates with him\/her in a involuntary manner, but very cunningly and probing (we soon talk about ordinary racism, of misogyny, of spanking\u2026).\u00a0 The image of an angry man is scary, an angry women is made fun of.\u00a0 To forbid anger is a very effective submissive tool.<\/strong>\u00a0 Feminists rise up\u2026in anger!<\/span><\/p>\n

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2.\u00a0Usefulness of anger.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

Still according to Jerry, someone who is never angry (like me)(before), it\u2019s a house with the door and window permanently open: it\u2019s dangerous!\u00a0 Because you let a whole bunch of toxic things get in, without noticing them for what they are.\u00a0 Someone anastrophic (the opposite of catastrophic) is putting themselves in danger without being aware of it.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s a… child (carebear type)<\/span><\/p>\n

So there once again, I talk to the little girl whom you might have difficulty letting go because the anger (I mean the adult anger) is the end of perfection<\/a>. It\u2019s all of a sudden to head toward your “whole” and no longer your “good.”<\/span><\/p>\n