{"id":19921,"date":"2016-04-27T06:00:08","date_gmt":"2016-04-27T05:00:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/maihua.fr\/?p=19921"},"modified":"2016-04-28T18:31:56","modified_gmt":"2016-04-28T17:31:56","slug":"un-homme-un-vrai","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/2016\/04\/un-homme-un-vrai\/","title":{"rendered":"Un homme, un vrai"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><center><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"border: none; overflow: hidden;\" src=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/plugins\/video.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Frich.cranmore%2Fvideos%2Fvb.100003007392186%2F645586552218252%2F%3Ftype%3D3&amp;show_text=0&amp;width=600\" width=\"600\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/center>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><em>(English version below)<\/em><\/p>\n<p>En relisant <a href=\"http:\/\/maihua.fr\/2016\/04\/purple-reigns\/\" target=\"_blank\">mon post sur Prince<\/a>, je me suis dit qu&#8217;il y avait un milliard d&#8217;autres choses \u00e0 dire. Je veux dire qu&#8217;il m&#8217;inspire beaucoup plus encore. J&#8217;avais commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 aborder le th\u00e8me <a href=\"http:\/\/maihua.fr\/2013\/05\/how-does-it-feel\/\" target=\"_blank\">ici<\/a> et <a href=\"http:\/\/maihua.fr\/2016\/04\/when-mai-meets-mai\/\" target=\"_blank\">l\u00e0<\/a>. La notion de genre m&#8217;int\u00e9resse. Et l\u00e0, nous avons un sp\u00e9cimen tout \u00e0 fait int\u00e9ressant de ce qu&#8217;est pour moi, un homme, un vrai.<\/p>\n<p>Prince a toujours \u00e9t\u00e9, un homme &#8220;complet&#8221; dans sa masculinit\u00e9. Et la notion n&#8217;est forc\u00e9ment la (Bi) sexualit\u00e9, m\u00eame si quand m\u00eame, je pense qu&#8217;il y a mati\u00e8re \u00e0 d\u00e9battre (MJ encore une fois n&#8217;a jamais voulu devenir un homme, et\/parce qu&#8217;\/par cons\u00e9quent il \u00e9tait bloqu\u00e9 sexuellement).<\/p>\n<p>Bref, \u00eatre un homme n&#8217;est pas forc\u00e9ment de &#8220;montrer&#8221;, &#8220;faire preuve de&#8221;, virilit\u00e9. Je crois qu&#8217;il y a un \u00e9tat d&#8217;\u00eatre, absolument incroyable chez Prince. Un homme, un vrai, \u00e9crit lui m\u00eame ce qui le rend&#8230; Masculin.<\/p>\n<p>Il faut de sacr\u00e9es &#8220;balls&#8221; pour se montrer comme il se montre. Elise, une lectrice, m&#8217;a envoy\u00e9e un texte de D&#8217;Eric Delhaye que je trouve sublime sur Prince.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 658px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-version=\"6\">\n<div style=\"padding: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background: #F8F8F8; line-height: 0; margin-top: 40px; padding: 50.0% 0; text-align: center; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<p style=\"margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;\"><a style=\"color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BEiRuS0m8zs\/\" target=\"_blank\">Magnifique texte d&#8217;Eric Delhaye @telerama ? #prince #lachiale poke @mai_hua @lilibarberycoulon<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\">A photo posted by Elise Maillard (@elise_maillard) on <time style=\"font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px;\" datetime=\"2016-04-23T08:10:52+00:00\">Apr 23, 2016 at 1:10am PDT<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script src=\"\/\/platform.instagram.com\/en_US\/embeds.js\" async=\"\" defer=\"defer\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>Prince oui n&#8217;a jamais \u00e9t\u00e9 un ado. Il a toujours \u00e9t\u00e9 un homme. Il a toujours cr\u00e9\u00e9, s&#8217;est parfois tromp\u00e9. Mais il montre peu d&#8217;h\u00e9sitation sur le terrain de sa masculinit\u00e9. Et le fait qu&#8217;il montre qui il est (c&#8217;est <a href=\"http:\/\/maihua.fr\/2013\/12\/valerie-solvit-reine-des-astres\/\" target=\"_blank\">Valerie Solvit<\/a> qui nous avait parle de cette notion &#8220;montre qui tu es&#8221; et non &#8220;viens comme tu es&#8221;), \u00e0 l&#8217;instant pr\u00e9sent ou il le fait, \u00e7a me bouleverse. On est loin d&#8217;une &#8220;signature&#8221;, d&#8217;un personal branding, d&#8217;une construction du personnage.<\/p>\n<p>Il est.<\/p>\n<p>Et c&#8217;est cette essence, cette authenticit\u00e9, qui lui permet de se montrer en brushing, en afro, en lissage&#8230;. Parce qu&#8217;on s&#8217;en fout. Prince n&#8217;utilise pas de code pour se faire comprendre. Il est ce qu&#8217;il veut. Il fait ce qu&#8217;il est.<\/p>\n<p>L&#8217;image n&#8217;est qu&#8217;un terrain de jeu parmi d&#8217;autres choses. Et ce qui est v\u00e9ritable c&#8217;est l&#8217;action de cr\u00e9er (en tant que cr\u00e9ateur), celle de d\u00e9sirer (en tant que jouisseur), celle de changer (en tant qu&#8217;\u00eatre humain?!).<\/p>\n<p>Quand les attitudes prennent forme&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Ce qui me frappe aussi c&#8217;est comme cette essence \u00e9panouie permet d&#8217;exprimer tr\u00e8s simplement des choses complexes, des polarit\u00e9s tr\u00e8s fortes : Prince est \u00e0 la fois masculin et f\u00e9minin, cabot et profond, \u00a0rock et soul, funky et bless\u00e9, et quand encore une fois je le regarde sur toute ces vid\u00e9os, il n&#8217;y a jamais de fausse note&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>De la v\u00e9rit\u00e9. De la vraie. Oui \u00e7a me prend aux tripes.<\/p>\n<p>Cela dit, et\u00a0pour conclure, je dirais que pour une femme, une vraie, on pourrait \u00e9crire tout simplement&#8230; La m\u00eame chose.<\/p>\n<p>Donc, j&#8217;ai un peu avanc\u00e9 au niveau d\u00e9veloppement personnel &#8220;humain&#8221;, mais pas tout \u00e0 fait sur l&#8217;aspect genr\u00e9 de la chose!<\/p>\n<p>On se catche plus tard alors! Mille mille bises<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>While reading my latest post about Prince, I&#8217;ve realised I had much more to say. I mean, he inspires me much more than what I wrote. I began to write about this very subject here and there on this blog : I am so interested into Gender issue. And here, we have quite a specimen of what I would describe as a man, a true man.<\/p>\n<p>I guess Prince has always been a &#8220;complete&#8221; man forever. And the question is not only his (Bi) sexuality, even if there is so much to say about it (MJ, to quote him once again, never wanted to become a man, and because of\/as a consequence he was sexually blocked).<\/p>\n<p>To make it short, being a man is not about &#8220;showing&#8221;, &#8220;proving&#8221; your masculinity. I think there is a state of &#8220;being&#8221;, that is absolutely incredible with Prince. A man, a true one, writes and creates his own relationship to&#8230; masculinity.<\/p>\n<p>You need fucking big &#8220;balls&#8221; to show yourself as he does. Elise, one of my readers, sent me a text about Prince, from the journalist Eric Delhaye that I find sublime :<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It&#8217;s rare that music stirs. Love that stirs is even rarer. The one that some millions of humans have felt while listening to 1999, Purple Rain or Around the World in a Day, belongs to the second category. For teenagers of the 80&#8217;s who have hung posters of Michael Jackson in their bedrooms, and could be titillated by Madonna&#8217;s provocations, Prince marks the passage to adulthood. For the trouble he would maintain the unheard of sophistication of his music.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Yes Prince has never been a hesitating or provocative teenager. it seems he has always been a man. he kept creating, sometimes got it wrong. but showed little hesitation on his masculinity. and the fact that he could show who he was, relating to the present moment he was doing it, overwhelms me completely. We are far from any &#8220;signature&#8221;, any personal branding, persona.<\/p>\n<p>He is. He was.<\/p>\n<p>And this very essence, this authenticity, enabled him to go for an amazing brushing, an afro, a smoothing hair&#8230; because this is not an issue. Prince does not use any code to make people understand him better. He is who he wants to be. He does what he is.<\/p>\n<p>His image is just another playground. What is true and profound is to create (when you are a creator), desire (when you are a pleasure seeker), evolve (when you are a&#8230; human?!!!)<\/p>\n<p>When attitudes transform into shapes&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>What strikes me is how, from a well grown up essence, one can express in a very simple way, very complex things, from very strong and opposite polarities : Prince is both masculin and feminine, showing off and profound, rock and soul, funky and wounded&#8230; and when I see all his videos they will always sound and look flawless<\/p>\n<p>That is truth. True one. and that churns my stomach.<\/p>\n<p>That is what I had to say about a man. a true man. yep&#8230; still, having said that, and to conclude with I would say, for a woman, I mean a true woman, i would say&#8230; exactly the same.<\/p>\n<p>So, I may have grown in terms of personal development, on how to describe a &#8220;human&#8221;, a true one, but not as far as gender is involved.<\/p>\n<p>Catch you later then! Thousands of kisses<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; (English version below) En relisant mon post sur Prince, je me suis dit qu&#8217;il y avait un milliard d&#8217;autres choses \u00e0 dire. Je veux dire qu&#8217;il m&#8217;inspire beaucoup plus encore. J&#8217;avais commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 aborder le th\u00e8me ici et l\u00e0. La notion de genre m&#8217;int\u00e9resse. Et l\u00e0, nous avons un sp\u00e9cimen tout \u00e0 fait int\u00e9ressant &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/2016\/04\/un-homme-un-vrai\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Un homme, un vrai<\/span> <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":20025,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[8,30],"tags":[1152,1150,1154,1151,177],"class_list":["post-19921","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mon-chemin","category-vire-son-chemin","tag-feminin","tag-genre","tag-i-wanna-be-your-lover","tag-masculin","tag-prince"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19921","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19921"}],"version-history":[{"count":13,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19921\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":19958,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19921\/revisions\/19958"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20025"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19921"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19921"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19921"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}