{"id":22018,"date":"2016-05-30T05:00:03","date_gmt":"2016-05-30T04:00:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/maihua.fr\/en\/2016\/05\/play-from-your-fucking-heart\/"},"modified":"2016-09-09T09:19:00","modified_gmt":"2016-09-09T08:19:00","slug":"play-from-your-fucking-heart","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/en\/2016\/05\/play-from-your-fucking-heart\/","title":{"rendered":"Play From Your Fucking Heart"},"content":{"rendered":"

You know my passion for analysis and self development. Psycho therapy, classical ones, body therapy, Bachs Flowers,\u00a0danse<\/a>,\u00a0mindfull meditation<\/a>, readings about\u00a0intimacy<\/a>,\u00a0joy<\/a>…. I try not to miss any occasion to understand more and better about myself, about who I am.<\/p>\n

Still, I must admit\u00a0Play From Your Fucking Heart<\/a>\u00a0had totally overwhelmed me (my head? my all self?). It was the reading I was not ready for before, it was exactly what I needed a couple of months ago, when i read it.<\/p>\n

I will introduce you soon to\u00a0Jerry Hyde<\/a>, because the affair does not stop h\u00e8re, but before that, I would like to tell you about his book because it enabled me to understand so much about myself.<\/p>\n

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1\/ Easy Baby<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"PLAY-FROM-YOUR-FUCKING-HEART-JERRY-HYDE_2<\/a><\/p>\n

In his book, Jerry (yeah why not calling him by his given name now?!) shares 20 years of practice as a therapist, 10 years of training (in classical therapy, but also through numerous retreats with spiritual masters, chamans…). This is serious, this is supa serious!\u00a0Still, whatever he will be dealing with (emotions, relationships, sexuality…) Jerry will write as if he was a close friend of yours, chatting easily at a party or around a cup of tea. He is English, so it is very witty, both profound and full of humour. And most of all, Jerry shares his own personal experiences, his errors, discoveries, which enables an analysis that is not “descending”. Just true sharing. and I find this so beautiful.<\/p>\n

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2\/ Observe yourself lovingly<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"PLAY-FROM-YOUR-FUCKING-HEART-JERRY-HYDE_3<\/a><\/p>\n

At the end of each chapter, Jerry will give you 1, 2, 5 reminders\u00a0to consider. And in any case (when you feel pain, when you should feel\u00a0pain, when you’ve been an arshole, when-ever), “Observe Yourself Lovingly” will be featured and i this so poetic i can’t tell you how much.\u00a0i just love it.<\/p>\n

This\u00a0state of mind, is a place from where\u00a0you can grow. Whatever the situation is, including the worst ones, including those you are responsible for. You learn how to switch from guilt (ok so what?!)(useless) to what he calls \u00a0AFGO “Another Fucking Growth Opportunity<\/strong>“.<\/p>\n

In other words, the compassion you have for yourself, is\u00a0not only a way to be kind to yourself, it can be a truly difficult path, but that is what makes you grow strong, in any occasion. \u00a0Fucking powerfull!<\/p>\n

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3\/ Explore your\u00a0Dark Side<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"PLAY-FROM-YOUR-FUCKING-HEART-JERRY-HYDE_1<\/a><\/p>\n

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We have\u00a0already quoted Yung\u00a0“Do you want to be good or to be whole”<\/a>. And I’ve got it from this very book. To explain you briefly : obsessive\u00a0control, anger, vanity, cowardliness, addiction, we all have (a) dark side(s)(sssss).<\/p>\n

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Come on, don’t tell me know you have none! (compulsive lying is a\u00a0dark side).<\/p>\n

Despite that, we have all grown up with the duty\u00a0to do good, behave well.\u00a0The result is that this dark side becomes totally shut down, unknown and hence… so free to express itself, without possible control. The so famous\u00a0“despite me”, “beyond my control”, “I don’t understand, I don’t recognize myself, it is no me\u00a0“.<\/p>\n

Regardent myself, it was anger (i found more of them since). But could cure myself if I did knowledge there was an issue, my own issue. We usually objectivise the reasons of our anger “s\/he did that to me > s\/he deserves my anger\/ it is normal that I get angry”.\u00a0sometimes it is true. But it becomes a pattern, a relational mode (with ones’ kids, parents, lover) then the problem\u00a0is… you!<\/p>\n

So if you “observe yourself lovingly”, maybe you will able to see where, when, how it\u00a0happens. Without being judgemental but by dressing the true issue : yourself. People around me could have to cope with my anger, whilst the problem came from me. Little by little, i eventually accepted what was actually the truth for such a long time : i was angry (shit!). So, well, I became the subject of my own anger.<\/p>\n

And Suddenly, i felt “complete”, “whole”, and FUCK YEAH it felt so… good! I felt libarated! And now I know it belongs to me, that i have stupide it so so precisely, i can defuse it\u00a0when i see its motors\u00a0starting. People around me are so happy. And so am I!<\/p>\n

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\"PLAY-FROM-YOUR-FUCKING-HEART-JERRY-HYDE_4<\/a><\/p>\n

This exp\u00e9rience of the Dark Side, has been one of the most profond and sensitive ever. I also understood why we like to cry and shiver while going to cinema : we need to feel complete.<\/p>\n

my eternal gratitude to the well-named… Mr Hyde! <3<\/p>\n

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