{"id":22717,"date":"2016-09-14T05:00:44","date_gmt":"2016-09-14T04:00:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.maihua.fr\/en\/?p=22717"},"modified":"2016-09-14T09:47:36","modified_gmt":"2016-09-14T08:47:36","slug":"jerry-hyde-a-rock-n-roll-therapist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/en\/2016\/09\/jerry-hyde-a-rock-n-roll-therapist\/","title":{"rendered":"Jerry Hyde"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I met Jerry almost 1 year ago, and these images were\u00a0filmed&#8230; 9 ago!<\/p>\n<p>I first saw Jerry on a Flyer. Truc Anh, my brother had sent me a mail : &#8220;Go attend\u00a0this talk, it is at\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.maihua.fr\/2015\/09\/le-noir-et-le-blanc-selon-seymour\/\" target=\"_blank\">Seymour +<\/a>. Meet new people, widen your horizons, on interests\u00a0that&#8230; interest you! the worst that could happen is that you lose 1 hour!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The very idea to lose 1 hour of my time just depressed me. Go and meet people I don&#8217;t know just depressed me (at that time, I did not know \u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.maihua.fr\/2016\/03\/melissa-unger\/\" target=\"_blank\">M\u00e9lissa<\/a>\u00a0yet). But actually, i knew <a href=\"http:\/\/www.maihua.fr\/en\/2016\/07\/single-life\/\" target=\"_blank\">my brother was right<\/a>\u00a0. And I see the name of the book, written by this man :\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.maihua.fr\/en\/2016\/05\/play-from-your-fucking-heart\/\" target=\"_blank\">Play From Your Fucking Heart<\/a>, and though : &#8220;hum&#8230; not bad&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Let&#8217;s\u00a0go!<\/p>\n<p>When arriving at the talk, I discover Jerry sat on a sofa, interviewed by Melissa. A kind of beautiful man, with tattooes all over, very &#8220;manny&#8221;, something like that, who is talking about his life as&#8230; a psycho therapist. Oh well, that&#8217;s not the kind of therapist I&#8217;ve had!\u00a0\u00a0The evening and the talk are super interesting, and echoe with plenty of personal concerns. At the end, I go to salute him and merely thanked him, and went back home. It is so just not the good occasion to introduce yourself to someone who&#8217;s just spent the last hour talking about his book.<\/p>\n<p>And then, back home, I though &#8220;hum&#8230; I MUST have him&#8230; for the blog!&#8221; I was so impressed by this character but well, let&#8217;s just try to send a message. The worst would be that he do not answer.<\/p>\n<p>Guess what, he did! From the Eurostar back to London. So we try to skype, one, two times but it never works. So I tell him &#8220;you know what, I don&#8217;t really like to prepare my interviews, I prefer to meet people and film them like that, and improvise. And I am sure life will give us other opportunities to meet, between Paris, London and wherever. And I will film you then.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>2 weeks later, I am offered a contract for The Body Shop. In 12 years as a Free Lancer, it is my first long-run mission abroad. And it is in London! Not in Milan, not in NYC, not in Madrid. in Lon-don!<\/p>\n<p>I arrive at Jerry&#8217;s place and say to myself &#8220;&#8230; &#8230;. &#8230;&#8221; Yes, i just have no words (expect shitty things such as &#8220;wahou, what a beautiful decoration&#8221;) It is a sort of Ali Baba&#8217;s cavern&#8230; in Woodstock, plenty of wall coverings, incense, electric guitares, feathers, skulls, old pictures, panther skins&#8230; We begin the shooting and my microphone does not work (that is why the sound is a little bit shitty)(sorry)(i discovered after the itw, that it was just&#8230; on &#8220;mute&#8221;)(damn). And I feel sooooo nervous. and I behave as if I am not. And here is the result.<\/p>\n<p>Just to tell you that before Jerry became my lover, we had a very long adventure. Very slow, filled with admiration, discussions, friendship. Everything went very slowly, and surely. Little by little I discovered his personality. And I probably don&#8217;t have to objectify him anymore. Probably\u00a0we\u00a0&#8220;followed our bliss&#8221; individually, and then together. And it is like a dream. in better : it is real.<\/p>\n<p>Indeed, this editing was so so hard to do and I hope you like it and that it tells you stories. stories about you.<\/p>\n<p>So to end this quite special first OUT OF THE BOX portrait, I am going to\u00a0list what I&#8217;ve learnt from Jerry&#8217;s messages. And to make it work for you, please do the same, for yourself. Please do it.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So, here is what&#8217;s for me\u00a0:<\/p>\n<p><strong>1- be your own authority<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I stop searching for other&#8217;s validation\/fault, from my boss (well ok, I have none), my followers, my man (!), any substitue for daddy or mummy. I work on me, search for my own truth, my own values, like&#8230; an adult. I also love this idea of companionship. No one is superior.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>2- follow your bliss<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>We&#8217;ve just talked abut it. Confidence, being centered, enables me to know what is the best way for myself. at the present moment. I\u00a0don&#8217;t stick to one specific desire, but my confidence\u00a0gives me a natural guidance\u00a0to my own bliss. I did have admiration for Jerry as soon as we met, but I was\u00a0not there to seduce him, and that is why thousands of things could have been shared between us, before the relationship evolved.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>3- stop objectifying other people<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I stop talking to a cashier, a taxi driver, a burkini-holder, my child, and relate like a person does with another person. Because this other person is just like me, she\/he has dreams, a past, kids, parents etc&#8230; she\/he is a human being!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>I really hope you&#8217;ve liked this video. Tell me because I can&#8217;t wait to know how you feel about it. Thank you so much Jerry Hyde! and thank you so much, my dear dear companions.<\/p>\n<p>Love to you all<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I met Jerry almost 1 year ago, and these images were\u00a0filmed&#8230; 9 ago! I first saw Jerry on a Flyer. Truc Anh, my brother had sent me a mail : &#8220;Go attend\u00a0this talk, it is at\u00a0Seymour +. Meet new people, widen your horizons, on interests\u00a0that&#8230; interest you! the worst that could happen is that you &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/en\/2016\/09\/jerry-hyde-a-rock-n-roll-therapist\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Jerry Hyde<\/span> <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":25463,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"video","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1234,1229],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22717","post","type-post","status-publish","format-video","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-out-of-the-box-en","category-portraits-en","post_format-post-format-video"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22717","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22717"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22717\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":22733,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22717\/revisions\/22733"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/25463"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22717"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22717"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archives.maihua.fr\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22717"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}