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The Rivers

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… and here we are, my baby is born! it will have taken 5 years and a half.

FIVE YEARS AND A HALF for f* sake! (maybe you can’t see it but it is written in arial 82 bold)

this is totally bonkers! it seams it takes more time give birth to a baby than to yourself.

“It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure.” disait Joseph Campbell

As you may imagine, I have cried a lot while making this movie. it has been one of the most beautiful thing, Yes, the most profound, hurtful, love-full and fun thing i have ever experienced. We talked about it quite early in the process (well ok already after a whole year) that the movie had its own rhythm. nothing of what I “wanted” would work. “it” would not let me do it. it obliged me to listen, sometimes to wait for the flow to come back, sometimes on the contrary to renounce in order not to sink.

I was reading yesterday Women who run with wolves : “el Rio abajo el Rio, the underneath river rivière represents the creativity of the feminine psyche”… OUI! and what an adventure!

i feel moved, moved, moved and full of gratitude.

i would like to thank my family, my mother and grand mother, my children and their father. and of course Jerry without whom the movie could not find its way. the universe has spoken i guess!

i also had the great chance to work with beautiful people, the first of which Marine Arrighi de Casanova my co-producer, who has been reading the blog since the begining and who came to me 6 years ago to tell me “i think you should work on a long feature now”. there are also Thomas Monnet and Nicolas Boucher who have worked like crazy (literally) on the edit. and indeed Kenny Dickenson who has composed and performed a whole original soundtrack from Los Angeles (wtf!!!).

so here we are : the baby is born, but I now will need more of your help and ongoing efforts to present it to the world I already have visions and dreams, such as a vod link, an album for the soundtrack, a tour of projections with debates, a kit for you to make your own projection with debates (i know, it will be less abstract when you the film), I enventually dream of special projections with a performance… just to say it and already the work is starting! so, all your help and advise, and contacts are more than welcome! let us do it together!

i indeed have kept the best for the end…

dear kiss kiss bankers, MERCI!

thank you from the bottom of my heart. this movie could not exist without your financial support and benevolence! your trust and patience have guided me throughout the whole process!!!!!

 

ETERNAL GRATITUDE (In arial 182 maxi-bold)

Mélissa Aberman – Pascale Adam – Lisa Adamski – Brigitte Aellen – Marion Afriat – Habiba Alaoui
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Amour à tous <3 <3 <3

Sam Roddick

SAAAMMMMM yeeeahhhhhhaaaaaahhh!

Jerry has been talking about Sam for so long!!! and this discussion has put words on so many intuitions i could not make sense with! I now feel profoundly transformed and moved.

1. talking about sex, can be a way of making (some) love.

If you remember Sasha, my Tantra teacher, she said something like “existence is a love making process“. There is a lot of stuff at the moment about sexuality, especially feminine, but I think we forget the benevolence that is necessary to have “good” sex. consent is fucking sexy!

When I see these 2 friends talking, so freely, with so much listening for each other, humanly, but also as a man and a woman … even …

as a penis and a vagina, cause’… they are people too !!!

I find it just wonderful.

Frustration, suffering, fear … we are so many to be or to have been totally lost on the question of sex. and I find it necessary to hear and see a “positive” possibility around sex.

2. Educational corollary

I read a book on education (for little boys but the advice applies to everyone): from the age of 10, parents must talk about sex to their children! words such as masturbation, orgasm, making love, but also incest, rape, should be part of everyday conversations at home. put words on an experience, without going into private details of course, but to signify that it is not a taboo (1st sign of a latent repression), to talk about their sovereignty in their relationship to their body (as Jerry told us). but above all to share, welcome, “raise” children, with humor, the respect and the maturity necessary for them to flourish in their sexual life.

better understanding and practicing sex is a necessity from puberty (well ok, except if you want to dedicate your life to meditation), and if you do not take care of the sex education of your children, they will look for it in pornography or probably equally uneducated friends. indeed.

so shall we stop breaking the long sticks that your son puts between the legs, shall we stop saying that pussies are disgusting? shall we welcome, celebrate, and laugh together!

3. because yes sex is a wider emanation of « being »

As Sam says, the question is not how to suck “a” cock but to know who you suck … ohlalala, to write it, it makes me funny, but go let’s go!

thus it is the whole being who engages in a sexual relationship. So even if it’s with a sex buddy, do it with love, respect, kindness, understanding, and you can go much further. much wilder.

everything is a question of connection. with oneself and with the other.

4. the question of universality and singularity

I found in Sam, a very clear path, and that reassured me regarding these possible tensions when questing as a “human” and a “woman” (or a man), inclusion versus separation.

identities are so complex. the goal is certainly to create an existence that connects us to a human experience, and that we all have unique paths to achieve it. so,

all my questions “as a woman” never aim to separate me from “men”, “2-spirit” or other women who have different paths etc, but to join them, who walk the same way in their singularity.

each path is different but the intention, certainly can be universal.

I hope this new OUT OF BOX helps you to walk. share it with those you love, discuss and leave me a com !!!

a thousand kisses

Sam Roddick

<3 les sous-titres sont enfin disponibles! merci à la communauté!!!! <3

Jerry me parle de Sam depuis si longtemps, et cette discussion a mis des mots sur tellement d’intuitions contrariées ou évaporées que j’en suis profondément transformée et émue.

  1. parler de sexe, peut être une manière de faire (de) l’amour

Si vous vous rappelez de ma prof de Tantra, Sasha, elle disait un truc du genre “existence is a love making process“. il y a énormément de choses en ce moment sur la sexualité, notamment féminine, mais je trouve qu’on oublie la bienveillance nécessaire pour avoir du “bon” sexe.

Quand je vois ces 2 amis parler, si librement, avec tant d’écoute l’un pour l’autre, humainement, mais aussi en tant qu’homme et femme … voire…

en tant que Pénis et Vagin du coup… they are people too!!!

je trouve ça tout simplement merveilleux.

Frustration, souffrance, peur… nous sommes beaucoup à être ou à avoir été en lose totale sur la question du sexe. et je trouve qu’il est nécessaire d’entendre et de voir une possibilité “positive” autour du sexe.

2. corollaire éducatif

je lisais un livre sur l’éducation (des petits garçons mais là le conseil s’applique à tout le monde) : dès l’âge de 10 ans, les parents doivent parler de sexe à leurs enfants! des mots tels que masturbation, orgasme, faire l’amour, mais aussi inceste, viol, doivent faire partie des conversations courantes à la maison. mettre des mots sur une expérience, sans rentrer dans des détails privés bien sûr, mais pour leur signifier que ça n’est pas un tabou (1er signe d’une répression latente), leur parler de leur souveraineté dans leur rapport à leur corps (Jerry nous en parlait). mais surtout partager, accueillir, “élever”, avec l’humour, le respect et de la maturité nécessaires pour qu’ils s’épanouissent dans leur vie sexuelle.

mieux comprendre et pratiquer le sexe est une nécessité dès la puberté, et si vous ne vous occupez pas de l’éducation sexuelle de vos enfants, ils la chercheront dans la pornographie, cqfd.

donc on arrête de casser les longs bâtons levés que votre fiston se met entre les jambes, on arrête de dire que la foufoune c’est dégueulasse, on accueille, on célèbre, et on rit ensemble!

 

3. car oui le sexe est une émanation plus large de l'”être

comme dit Sam, la question n’est pas de savoir comment on suce “une” bite mais de savoir qui tu vas sucer… ohlalala, de l’écrire, ça me fait drôle, mais aller allons-y!

ainsi c’est tout l’être qui s’engage dans une relation sexuelle. donc même si c’est avec un sexe buddy, fais le avec amour, respect, gentillesse, entente, et tu pourras beaucoup plus “loin”.

tout est une histoire de connexion. avec soi et avec l’autre.

 

4. la question de l’universalité et de la singularité

j’ai trouvé en Sam, un cheminement très clair, et qui m’a “rassurée” dans ces tensions possibles entre “l’humain” et “la femme” (ou l’homme), l’inclusion et la séparation…

finalement les identités sont si complexes. le but est certainement de créer une existence qui nous relie à une expérience humaine, et que nous avons tous des chemins singuliers pour y parvenir. ainsi,

tous mes questionnements “en tant que femme” ne visent jamais à me séparer “des hommes”, “des 2-spirit” ou d’autres femmes qui ont des cheminements différents etc, mais à me joindre à eux, qui cheminent de la même manière dans leur singularité.

chaque chemin est différent mais l’intention, certainement peut être universelle.

j’espère que ce nouvel OUT OF BOX vous aide à cheminer. partagez le avec ceux et celles que vous aimez, débattez et laissez moi un com!!!

mille bises

Susanne Kaufmann

ahhhh! Je feel grateful that my friend Nicolas, founder of Nose, trusts me to make this journey through the world of niche cosmetics. After Charthusia , and Filippo Sorcinelli, we quite already have our routine : i welcome what emerges, he imagines what he wants! this time we have been to Austria to meet Susanne.

i did not think i would keep shouting “aahhhh” “oooohhhh” while visiting these mesmerizing Alpes pasture, filled you cows, unknown white flowers and bells. i loved also the life she has been crafting with her husband and 2 children. on one hand they live the ancestral village life, with only 2000 inhabitants and at the same time, they inspire each other in such creative way : have you ever heard of a cheese maker who would suddenly think : oh i could do cosmetics with all this whey left! i also met her friend who is a quite dramatic Butcher : young, tall, incredible look, passionate about “his” cows. and indeed, her husband, who actually was not meant to play for us but who did (thank you nicolas!!!) whose drums were so spectacular!

it was so inspiring to relax into this beautiful hyper contemporary hotel in the middle of preserved meadows and forests. wahou! i did not think i could experience such contrasts! eventually Susanne is such a graceful entrepreneur, who does not compromise on the brand she is inventing, but aslo on the very complete lifestyle she is dedicated to! “i’d like to invent something!”… well, you have!

 

 

The Book of Sin

et oui, il nous faut changer “notre” monde, ne serait ce que pour reprendre un peu de pouvoir là où le désespoir, peut nous toucher.

J’aimerais commencer par vous remercier. Car le bouquin de Jerry, The Book of Sin, en version Kindle est resté n°1 des ventes sur Amazon (ET n°2 pour la version papier) pendant 10 jours entiers en Août, dans les section spiritualité et développement personnel. C’était totalement inattendu!!! surtout pour un livre en anglais!!!!! merci d’avoir été au rendez-vous!

la soirée réunissait tout l’univers de Jerry, les gens qu’il aime, les gens qui l’aiment, de tous les genres, toutes les couleurs, de tous les âges. il y avait un talk, des lectures, de la musique (pfff quelle ambiance!).

Continuez à soutenir ce projet!!!!

son groupe rejoue vendredi 21, au Water Rats, 7:30, à Londres, venez! (info ici)

The Book of Sin

What a party!!!

First I would like to thank you. because Jerry’s, The Book of Sin,  has remained n°1 on Amazon during several days at its launch, in 2 sections : spirituality and self help. That was a total surprise! thank you for your support!

The party was everything Jerry is : people he loves, people who love him,  every gender, every colors, every age. there was a talk, readings, music (pfff what a rocking ambiance!)

Please go on supporting the project!!!! and read the amazing reviews.  and yes, more than ever, we need to take back some power in this world!

his band is playing again on Friday 21rst, come (all the information are here)

Saran Koly

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to be “Toucouleurs”, to bring out all these messages and projects “from oneself”, from the deepest of oneself, is such a great gift that you offer to the world. I was amazed by Saran and our encounter, by this “complete” being who will come back soon to the blog to talk about something else.

Honesty is definitely something that touches me deeply. I think it was Géraldine who first upset me by her honesty (it was during personal conversations, not here), then Jerry, Vanessa etc… And we should all have these honest conversations with ourselves . Saran also reminds me of Mem, the Mad Sufi (do you remember?) Who said to us: “the mind is wonderful but can comprehend so many possibilities, while the heart, fiiiiiit, knows its direction, it ” knows “.” and I think that it is this kind of honesty that Saran speaks about, that of the heart, yes:

 

What do you hear about yourself when you stop the sound of your thoughts ?!

 

love to you all!

Saran Koly

être “Toucouleurs” , porter ces messages et ces projets “en soi”, au plus profond de soi, c’est un grand cadeau que l’on offre au monde. J’ai été émerveillée par Saran et notre rencontre, par cet être “complet” qui va revenir bientôt sur le blog nous parler d’autre chose.

L’honnêteté est définitivement une chose qui me touche profondément. Je pense que c’est Géraldine qui m’a la première bouleversée par son honnêteté (c’était lors de conversations perso, pas ici), puis Jerry, Vanessa etc… Et nous devrions tous avoir ces conversations honnêtes avec nous-mêmes. Saran me rappelle aussi Mem, le Sufi fou (vous vous rappelez?) qui nous disait : “l’esprit est merveilleux mais envisage tant de possibilités, alors que le coeur, fiiiiiit, connait sa direction. il “sait” ” et je pense que c’est de cette même honnêteté que parle Saran, celle du coeur, oui :

qu’entends-tu de toi, sur toi, quand tu fais cesser le bruit de tes pensées?! 

Amour à toutes et à tous

Growing with Addiction

2 contenus avec Jerry cette même semaine! ça n’était pas prévu ainsi mais allez!

Je suis comme d’habitude retournée par sa manière d’envisager le monde.

Si vous voulez cheminer plus loin sur cette question de l’addiction, je vous conseille cette vidéo basée sur une TED de Gabor Mate (oui encore lui!)(on y utilise le Sans-Visage pour illustrer le Hungry Ghost). allez-y, vous verrez que la question à se poser n’est pas “mais pourquoi je fais ça? c’est mal l’addiction!” mais plutôt : “en quoi c’est bon? qu’est ce que ça m’apporte?” sans vous poser ces questions vous bloquez la chaine de causalités qui remonte à cette déconnexion primaire dont parle Jerry. Ne le faîtes pas seul.e, c’est “dangereux” car il y a rarement une chose sympa au bout. coeur avec les doigts à vous <3

 

cette vidéo est aussi un message sur l’éducation que nous apportons à nos enfants.

> quand nous sommes en charge d’institution

pour vous la faire courte, Bryanston est l’ancien collège de Jerry. Comme vous le ressentez j’imagine, il y était profondément malheureux, profondément heureux aussi. C’était tout sauf un élève modèle (la photo où il porte la cagoule, a était prise dans le hall où ils avaient transporté la voiture du proviseur)(les portes sont très grandes), et je suis profondément admirative que Peter Hardy, en charge ce cycle de conférences fasse appel à cet “ancien cancre”, pour partager son expérience de coeur à coeur. un message qui n’a rien de simple, qui ne joue pas sur la peur de la répression (si ça marchait, on le saurait), mais sauve des vies tout simplement. le principal danger d’un enfant addict est qu’il ne sait pas encore qu’il est mortel.

 

> quand nous sommes parents

vous le savez, je suis extrêmement sensible à la notion de transmission. il y a si peu de parents capables de partager TOUT ce qu’ils sont à leurs enfants. je connaissais quelqu’un qui ne voulait pas dire qu’il n’avait pas la BAC à ses enfants. c’était évidemment pour les/ (se?) protéger avec l’idée de leur donner une “bonne image” de l’adulte référent. je comprends tellement. aimer c’est… pas toujours simple. mais voilà, ici Jerry m’inspire immensément parce que partager “son être” et non “une bonne image” de lui, c’est une preuve d’amour que je trouve incroyable. et ça, ça apprend à aimer, à ne pas se déconnecter.

Vous n’avez qu’une vie, la vôtre. partagez la, avec ceux que vous aimez. ça commence comme ça, aimer.

 

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Growing with Addiction

2 posts featuring Jerry in the same week?!! it was not scheduled this way, but whatever!

As usual, i am totally overwhelmed by Jerry’s vision. and when i say vision, i talk about love and realness, not about dogma.

If you want to go further on this question of addiction, I invite you to watch this vidéo based on a TED speech by Gabor Mate (you will see No-Face play the Hungry Ghost). go and see! it made me understand that the question to ask is not “why is addiction wrong?” but rather : “why is it good? what does it bring to people?” if you don’t ask that question, you break the chain of causalities and can’t go up to the root of the primal disconnection Jerry is talking about. Don’t do that on your own, it is “dangerous” because what is there is rarely nice. to all of you, i send you love <3

 

this video, is also a message about children’s eduction. in both these 2 situations :

> when you are in charge of an institution

roughly speaking, Bryanston was Jerry’s school. As you can imagine while watching the video, he had his worst and best time there. He was anything but a cool kid or a brilliant student, and I feel profoundly touched by Peter Hardy, who is in charge of these conferences there, to call this “former bad student”, to share his personal experience from heart to heart. his message is nothing but simple, it does not play on the fear of repression (if it worked, we would know it right?!), but his message that can save lives. the main danger of addiction for children is they don’t know they are mortel.

teachers, people working in administrations, the educational system, may you hear this message!

 

> when we are parents

you know how sensitive I am when it comes to the notion of transmission. there are so few parents who are capable of sharing EVERYTHING they are with their children. I remember someone who did not want to say to his children he had not have his BAC (the French equivalent of JCSCs i guess). it was indeed to protect them (him?) so that they a good image of their referent adult. i so much understand. to love is not always easy. but here, Jerry teaches me you can share the whole of “you”, rather than a “good image or them”. this is such a proof of love, it chokes me! and this teaches how to love, without disconnecting yourself.

You only have one life (i mean, so far…), your life. share it, with the ones you love. love may begin this way.

 

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